I Hate Weddings

I've been toying with this post for the past month, but since it's the first day of the new year, I figured I'd better get cracking on it. There's no time like the present, right?

First, I should say that I don't actually hate weddings. Hate is a very strong word, best reserved for things like hatred itself and lima beans. I'm not a fan of weddings. I've had to attend so many throughout my life. Public displays of affection, crying, and general girliness are just not my jam. And that's cool. Different strokes for different folks, right?

That's not to say that I didn't enjoy any of the weddings I've attended over the years. Of course I did! Seeing my siblings and best friend get married were very special moments, and I was so honored that they wanted to share them with me. We should all feel honored when people close to us want us to join them in celebrating joyous occasions, right?

Now, because this is a new year, I should probably clarify: This is not a whining and complaining post. I'm starting out this year happy and ready to take on any challenges thrown my way. I just thought I would go through some caveats while I bury the lede. That's a writer's prerogative, right?

I recently got engaged.

It's so weird to put it in writing, but there it is! My fiance proposed to me on the Sunday after Thanksgiving, and I've shared the news with my closest friends and family members. If you've seen me out and about, I probably told you in person. In fact, I haven't exactly been hiding it. Notice anything strange going on with my left hand in these Instagram posts?

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Nevertheless, this is the first time I'm sharing it on my blog. It still feels a bit surreal to me. Not being the wedding type, it's so strange when I share the news, and people immediately start asking me questions about dates, location, style, dresses, and on and on. Why do people get so weird about weddings?

I'm not planning to turn this into some future bride blog or wedding blog. Like I said before, that's just not my jam. I'm not going to talk to you about how I plan to slim down before my wedding day or whether I said yes to the dress (ew), because that's just not true to the spirit of this blog, or more importantly, true to myself. Likely the only change you'll notice is that -- on the rare occasion that I mention him on this blog -- I will refer to my significant other as my fiance now as opposed to my boyfriend. Is that cool with you guys?

Don't get me wrong. I'm over the moon about marrying John! He truly is an amazing man, and I'm so happy to have him in my life. I don't know what the future holds, but I'm ecstatic that he will be a major part of it. And that's about all the mushiness you're going to get from me today, folks. I just want to enjoy being engaged for a little while before I have to actually start answering some of those questions. So for now, no further questions, please. Pretty please?

So, to all of you, I wish you a happy, healthy, fabulous, splendiferous 2017! And to those of you planning to get married this year, I wish you Godspeed!


  1. Replies
    1. Thanks Esther!!! And thanks for not asking me harassing questions lol

  2. Yeah! Congratulations again!

    Weddings are so overrated....I had a typical wedding but in hindsight if I could do it all over again....me, the fiance and our immediate family and a big bbq!!!

    Enjoy your engagement!

  3. Yay! Congrats! We had a laid back beach wedding and it was so much fun!

  4. CONGRATS! I got engaged in August of 2016 and married in October of 2016. I love my husband more than anything in the world, but hated the idea of planning a traditional wedding. So...we didn't. LOL. We got married on our running trail with very little planning. It was absolutely perfect (and I only wrote ONE blog post about it, haha! http://relentlessforwardcommotion.com/2016/10/7-steps-to-the-perfect-trail-wedding/)